If I counted the number of times I said the words “why not” per week it would be astonishing. Ankylosing Spondylitis is not necessarily the original reason I began to use these two magical words, but I have found it has increased its place in my vocabulary. When you are a child these words are a daily occurrence used toward your parents, teachers and whomever challenges your wants and needs. As an adult, you find you also use these, but in a way that you are almost reasoning with not only the person on the other end of the conversation, but also with yourself. There are many ways these two sparkling words can be spoken. In many different tones and situations. Here are a few examples I like in every day usage.
- Why not! Meaning – I don’t understand why you are telling me this. I don’t like your answer.
- Why not? Meaning – I already messed up my diet. Sure I’ll have a piece of cake. I’ll hit the gym tomorrow.
- Why not? Meaning – Bad luck runs in cycles, so of course this is happening.
- Why not? Meaning – I have an open schedule, I would love to travel with you.
- Why not? Meaning – Although it sounds risky, I’m willing to give it a try.
Now, let’s look at the list when it comes to AS. The meanings are a little different. These words reiterate the extra thought AS sufferers and many others with chronic illnesses have to put into their daily lives. We find ourselves answering the question before we even ask it. Reminding ourselves how these two small words will have such an impact after they are said. Our simple words will turn our day, and/or days ahead, good or bad almost instantly.
- Why not! Meaning – I don’t like what you are saying Stop trying to take everything away from me! I want control of my life!
- Why not? Meaning – I’m in horrible pain. I could go ahead and eat that piece of cake since the damage is done for probably the next few days. What’s another day?
- Why not? Meaning – I have a million things to do, I’m in extreme pain, and have no more energy left. Let’s add to it. I might as well try since tomorrow I may be bed ridden.
- Why not? Meaning – I’m having a good day, and I don’t have any treatments scheduled for a few days. I would love to travel with you.
- Why not? Meaning – Although it sounds risky, I am at the end of my rope. I’ll try anything to ease the pain. I want to be able to enjoy daily life to the fullest again.
It really is amazing to me the impact these two, plain every day, words can display. We must remember to never stop questioning. Whether it be good or bad. I often stress the importance of us being our biggest advocates. I don’t mean only to the doctors. I do also mean to ourselves. We know what is best for us. Our answers to the glorious words “why not” is in the end, our decision. We must make the best one for us. Why not?